Everyone has an opinion about how children should be raised. Outside of two resources that I can recall, a blog titled Raising Godly Tomatoes and a book about raising strong-willed children (scroll all the way down to my footer to see the book info), I can’t really think of a resource that’s given me such great advice that I’d swear by it. And there’s the Bible of course. Not all of us are nurturers by nature, but I want to share all the bad things I’ve done as a mother to my children just to prove to you that what’s bad for one may be great for another. And all the research may be chalked up to someone’s dissertation hours instead of actual parenting…
- I nursed one longer than the other.
- For the past eight years, they’ve slept in the bed with me more often than not. They’re just now starting to venture out on their own.
- We skip school sometimes to stay home to rest or worship.
- I let one go to school knowing he had not brushed his teeth or put on deodorant. He needed to learn his lesson.
- I let the other wear pink nearly every day.
- I believed Brandon when he told me it was dress-up day at school and let him wear his Batman costume. It was actually “Sunday’s Best” dress up day hence the featured photo.
- I tell them about Santa, the Easter Bunny, and the Tooth Fairy.
- I totally forgot the kids lost teeth. At one point they were falling like dominos.
- I took the tooth and forgot to leave the money.
- I left the money and forgot to take the teeth.
- I got a divorce.
- I spank them when they tell each other’s business.
- I don’t always spank them when they lie.
- I can’t say no to school fundraisers… not because I want to buy the crap… but because they want that stupid prize at the end.
- I let them do the current dances provided they aren’t impure. I don’t know the dances myself, but I like to see exactly what they know.
- I talk trash when we play games, especially any Wii game that involves dancing.
- I’ve removed some family from their lives, but I let strangers show them affection. Sometimes all the little lady in the mall needs a hug.
- I allow them to make observations about people and tell me what they see, and we privately address it.
- I follow their lead.
- I say “no” to things and “yes” to experiences.
- I put them out of my room.
- I let them question my dates.
- When they’re being punished, I never ever ever send them to their room alone. I keep them closer to me and give them things to do.
- I make them scrub the carpet with Resolve, wash the windows with Windex, and dust with Pledge. They just wash their hands afterwards.
I”m sure you can find something research-driven and maybe even experiential that says my list of 21 things makes me certifiably crazy and therefore a bad mother. But my children are bright, happy, healthy, well-balanced… outside of being messy and moody sometimes, I cannot complain. Everything doesn’t work for everyone.
By the way, I feel guilty for NONE of the above!
Which unconventional methods do you practice with your children that contribute to their well-being?
Tell me about them in the comments section.
With love, sincerity, and hope for your future,