So I’ve got this little crush. I don’t see him often, but when I do, I get a little goofy, giggly, and swoony. I AM, after all, very much a woman. The chances of this crush blooming into anything more is unlikely, and I’m fine with that. Sometimes just gazing upon a handsome face and frame is all I need to keep me from hopping over to homely mom status.
Having said all that, it’s easy to get caught up imagining things…
Oh, don’t play dumb with me, sis! We are notorious for taking a mental skip, hop, and jump to wedding day when a fine brother pays us a little attention. We long for intimacy, but we don’t want to wait long so fantasizing creates a pleasant scenario in our minds in the meantime.
But here’s the problem.
While you’re off in la-la-land rehearsing the what-could-be’s, your soul is busy connecting to someone who may or may not exist. And even if he is all of the wonderful things you hope, shouldn’t the tie be formed through natural human interaction over time?
Any time we indulge in vain imaginations, we become subject to deception. I started to imagine this and that with Mr. Crush, but the Lord quickly arrested me. “Is that REALLY want you want from him? He can’t give you what I have in mind. This thought pattern is exactly how you opened yourself up to be fooled before.”
Not to belabor the point, but I’d like you to check your track record. How many times have you…
- Moved the relationship along faster than its natural flow?
- Made unreasonable demands?
- Expected or hoped for too much too soon?
- Shared too much too soon?
- Bought gifts and provided services (clears throat) outside of the proper covenant?
- Held on when you should’ve let go?
- Made excuses for someone you knew wasn’t any good because you didn’t want to your imaginations to be wrong?
Now how many of those times did you make those choices because you were engaged with a figment of your imagination instead of the real person? And if you allowed yourself to get to know the real person without interference from your desires, would you have done those things? Probably not.
Full disclosure… To get my imagination under control, I have to read the Word DAILY and fast once a week. That way my soulish desires can’t outweigh the Word of God that is alive in me. I know your preacher has told you that whatever you think about, you’ll eventually do… so uh, yeah. Let’s guard our thoughts!
Read: 1 Peter 5:8, Matthew 5:28, 2 Timothy 3 and 2 Corinthians 4:1-6
- Father, help us to sanctify our thoughts and bring every vain imagination under the power of Your Word.
- When it comes to potential relationships, help me to be sober-minded and watchful.